10 ways to start loving yourself the way you deserve to be loved
Updated: Nov 14, 2018
1. Be cognizant of your thoughts
Did you know that thoughts are fictitious? Yup! We make them up AND believe them! It goes back to our programming and circumstances that have formed the way, and what, we think. The good news is these can be purposefully changed for the better. Become aware of the most common thoughts you are having and change the ones that need changing. Immediately.
2. Take action for yourself
Don’t be a “yes man” if you don’t want to! Make a list of things you’ve said “yes” to that you wish you hadn’t and let those people know it’s a no.
3. Focus on your energy
We are all made up of energy. When we start the day off in a bad mood, the rest of the day seems to follow. If you’ve been lucky enough to catch it and change your thoughts/ mood, you know it makes a world of difference. What energy we put out is what we get back and you get to choose what it is.
4. Take a break and go technology free
Turn. Off. Your. Phone. What else needs to be said? We all need time to unplug. Let’s not wait for a vacation to do so. I will bet you’ll be surprised, when you turn your phone back on, how much you didn’t miss. It's actually an amazing feeling to do this and I hope you decide to give it a try.
5. Get more rest
Something we have complete control over yet we let get away from us so quickly. Set up whatever you need to in order to get to bed earlier (or at least the time you want!) If you’re coming home and know you’re not leaving, grab dinner then get into your PJ’s, wash your face and brush your teeth. Curl up with a book or talk with your SO. Let them know the plan for bedtime and have a little fun beating them into bed. (Yes, my husband and I do this all the time….. we ARE a little competitive so it works for us!!) The best part is we’re really both winning. 6. Set time aside for people who are important to you
Have you been thinking about someone a lot lately? Reach out. There’s a reason. I recently reached out to one of my best friends, who I hadn’t spoke with in over 9 months (because I let life get in the way) and come to find out she almost died. Literally. I was so thankful to reconnect with her and felt so thankful she didn’t. I can’t imagine how I would have felt if she had and I missed my opportunity to speak with her ever again.
7. Dream again!
Imagine who you want to be and put it down on paper. Write goals. Don’t worry about the HOW. JUST DREAM ON! You’ll be surprised at how much is actually accomplished when you write your goals down. There was a study done of 100 Harvard grads. 3% had goals. 13% had written goals. 84% had no specific goals. Click here for where they ended up just 10 short years later. https://www.wanderlustworker.com/the-harvard-mba-business-school-study-on-goal-setting/
8. Start a gratitude journal…. about yourself
How often do we think of the things we don’t like about ourselves. Daily. Let’s change that right here, right now. Go out and get a journal you like. Some of you might want to use your phone and I’m still encouraging you to get a journal. And write at least 5 things you like about yourself for a minimum of 2 weeks. See how it makes you feel throughout the day. Are your self-talk thoughts changing by the end of week 2? 9. Laugh
This has got to be my favorite. I LOVE to laugh. I love to joke around and make people laugh too. Doesn’t come as easy for you? Watch a comedian you like. Watch short videos of baby animals playing. Figure out what does it for you and make sure you laugh daily.
10. Get outside
Connect with nature again. Go on a walk on your lunch break or after work. Hike. Even SIT outside. Breath in the air and notice the noises nature has to offer us. If it’s nice enough out, take off your shoes and walk barefoot on the ground. This is literally called “grounding.” It reconnects us with the earth and brings more balance to our lives.
Become purposeful about your thoughts and take control over your programming. If you don’t, someone else will. I hope you’ve found these 10 steps to be something you can implement as quickly as you’d like.
What else do you do to feel self-love? Comment below!